If you want your family to experience more happiness, exhibit more empathy, and have lower levels of anxiety, I have found a great idea. Well, I didn’t actually come up with the idea on my own. Researchers Douglas A. Gentile, Dawn M. Sweet, and Lanmiao He did…and I’m glad they did.
They recruited college students for a simple 12-minute experiment. Each of the participants took surveys measuring anxiety, stress, empathy, and happiness levels. Then they were divided into four groups and each group was given an assignment to complete while walking around for 12 minutes.
- One group was to walk around and focus on the appearance of the people they saw.
- A second group thought about ways in which they might have a better life than the other people they saw.
- The third group looked at the people they encountered and wondered about any hopes, aspirations, or feelings they might have in common with them.
- Finally, a fourth group looked at people and thought (with conviction), “I wish for this person to be happy.”
Afterward, they all completed surveys measuring anxiety, stress, empathy and happiness levels again.
Comparing the before and after surveys revealed some interesting results.
- First, looking at people and thinking about how my life is better than their life simply made people less empathetic and caring.
- However, thinking “I wish for this person to be happy” led to higher levels of empathy and happiness as well as lower levels of anxiety! It also improved their sense of caring and connectedness. Let me repeat that because it sounds too good to be true. Simply walking around for 12 minutes and thinking “I wish for this person to be happy” when you look at someone led to increased happiness and empathy, decreased anxiety, and a greater sense of care and connectedness. Simple!
Why not start doing this in your family? Make it a daily practice to think about each family member and how you “wish for them to be happy.” Expand this “well-wishing” beyond the family by making it a family project to think “I wish for this person to be happy” for each person you see while grocery shopping or taking a walk or going to soccer practice or any other family activity. Then, on the way home, talk about the experience. You might just find yourself living in a happier, more empathetic, caring, and connected family with less anxiety. By the way, “I wish for you to be happy”…so give this experiment a try.