Will You Take the 30-Day Clandestine Marriage Challenge?
You can support your spouse and your marriage in at least two ways. One, you can offer support in a very visible way. This way often involves receiving some acknowledgment or fanfare in return. Generally, the more fanfare the giver requires, the less appreciated the support. Still, recognizing and acknowledging your spouse’s support will definitely strengthen your marriage.
But I want to focus on a second way to support your spouse—the invisible, clandestine way. Clandestine support often flies under the radar. It is done without your spouse asking for it. They may not even know you did it, even when they recognize it has been done. And clandestine support will often alleviate stress for your spouse. To me, the most beautiful aspect of clandestine support is the pleasant surprise I see on my spouse’s face when she recognizes what was done.
How can you offer clandestine support?
- Do a chore that your spouse normally does. And do it without being asked.
- Prepare your spouse’s favorite food.
- Bring home a treat your spouse enjoys—flowers, candy, pie (that one’s in case my spouse reads this post).
- Plan a night out for no special reason…and make it a surprise.
I’m sure you can think of more ideas. The point is to do it without being asked and with no expectation of any fanfare or recognition in return. Then, enjoy your spouse’s delight and surprise when they recognize what has been done.
In fact, I want to challenge you to participate in a Clandestine Marriage Challenge. Complete as many clandestine acts of service for your spouse as you can over the next 30 days. While you do, pay attention to any changes you notice in your spouse, your marriage, and your children. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.