As our children grow and mature, they need a positive body image—a body they sense as their own, a body they can listen to in order to better understand their emotions, and a body they accept as part of their identity. A study published in Trends in Cognitive Sciences reviewed decades of research on how a person’s perception of changes in skin temperature impacts their being. The research indicates that our perception of skin temperature not only impacts our survival and comfort, but our emotions, identity, and mental health. It shapes how we view our bodies and helps us “feel like ourselves.” The “tactile and thermal signals” we receive through our skin also helps us to feel more connected and embodied. Warm touch on our skin enhances our ability to sense ourselves, recognizing “this is my body.” 

In other words, warm touch—a hug or a touch on the shoulder, for example—passes neural signals from the skin to our brain that make us feel safe and regulated. This releases neurohormones that help reduce stress, support social connection, enhance body awareness, and increase well-being. Doesn’t that sound like something you want to give your spouse and your children? You can do it with a warm hug or touch. It will remind them that they are connected, valued, and part of the family. So, who are you going to hug? I think I’m going to find my children and give them a hug right now.