What parents say is powerful in the life of their children. Children hang their life, their very identity, on their parents’ words. Even the words said in passing have an impact on children. If children constantly hear their parents call them “stupid” or “a disappointment,” they will come to believe they are “stupid” and “disappointment.” If, on the other hand, children hear their parents say “I love you” and “good work,” they will come to see themselves as lovable and hardworking. So, what do you want your children hanging their hat on? What words do you want them to shape their identity? I like these words.

• I love you.
• You make me proud.
• I see you really put some hard work into that…and your hard work has paid off.
• You have made great improvement. You must be proud of your hard work.
• You look nice (beautiful, handsome, lovely) tonight.
• That was a very kind thing I saw you do.
• Thank you for….
• I’m sorry I….
• I appreciate….
• I am so glad to be your parent.
• I enjoy watching you (play your sport, sing in the choir, play in the band, do you part in the play, etc.).
• What would you like me to do for you today?
• I’m sorry that happened to you. What can I do to help?

 

This is just a baker’s dozen of phrases every would child love to hear. What else would you have liked to hear from your parents growing up? Why not tell your child that very thing?!